When You Don’t Feel Known

We all want to feel known. We want our family and friends to know our likes and dislikes and our ins and outs and for them to just “get” us. Every single person wants to feel known, no one is immune to it.

When You Don't Feel Known


But what about those times where we don’t feel known. When you’re in a situation, big or small, and it is all you think about and that struggle runs every minute of your everyday. Even the person you lay down next to at night doesn’t seem to pick up on it. Not even the God that knows the exact number of hairs on your head. Because when you come before Him to pray you have no more words, you’ve said them all. God, you know where my heart is but I don’t feel like you know me right now.

That’s tricky though isn’t it? Feelings. They are very real but they are not always the truth.

What is truth? The truth is that I’m so known by my Savior that at the very night that I felt as though I could no longer take any more, my husband looked up from the hustle and bustle of life and listened as I let everything spew out that I had been keeping in for what felt like so long. And then God brought me to His word for which my heart had been longing for but my flesh had been denying and showed me the promises He has made to me. That he knitted me together in my mother’s womb (Psalm 139:13). The Lord knows those who are His (2 Timothy 3:4). That He is the cornerstone to which I can build a sure foundation on (Isaiah 28:16). And that when the rain falls, and the floods come, and the winds blow and beat down, it will not fall because that foundation was built on the rock that is Jesus (Matthew 7:25).

When You Don't Feel Known

To be transparent I haven’t really been in the Word for a good month or so prior to writing this and I know part of my feeling the way I have is due to that. But in my selfishness of wanting to feel known God made me realize in John 10:14 just as I desire to be known by Him, He desires to be known by me.

Sister if you’re in a place where you feel like no one gets it, that no one seems to just want to meet you where you’re at even in the seemingly insignificant situations, I get it. I really do. But take comfort in three things: 1. this season serves a purpose 2. this season will pass and 3. the Lord knows you. He knows you so much more than you could ever imagine.

But don’t forget to get to know Him too.

I pray you feel the Lord’s love day and night sweet sister! I’d love to pray specifically for you, if you have  a prayer request you can leave it in the comments or for a more private matter you can email me at ladyandlaurakate@gmail.com.

Until next time,



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7 thoughts on “When You Don’t Feel Known”

  1. I could have written this up to the part where your husband reached out to you. I don’t have that, and I so long for it. Things aren’t good in my marriage. We’ve gone through many months of unemployment. Finally a job has come up which means hubby lives hours away from us except on weekends till the house sells. And it isn’t a place I want to go. And it is further from my aging parents who need me. Friends don’t know a fourth of what is really going on, and it hurts. Thank you for sharing. I, too, know I need to be more in the Word, but it is hard when you feel even God doesn’t care.

  2. Kate your blogs really inspire me and always seem to be at the right time. Please pray for me. I will do so for you. I’m proud of you.

  3. Kate,
    I know your you wrote this years ago but I just came upon it. I discovered your blog while looking at your nautical rope coaster instructions. (Love them, by the way!) Anyways, I was quite inspired by this letter. It came at the perfect time for me. I’ve been going thru some serious heath issues for the past 10 years. Cancer and now kidney failure. I’ve been on the transplant list for >6 yrs now and dialyze at home 5 days/wk. it’s my like right now. I do not get out much as a result and I had been a very active and social person. My faith is strong in Christ. But I go thru waves. I need prayer not only for health reasons but also for strength and weariness. To faithfully read and trust His promises. And remain hopeful. I truly struggle with those things. Thank you!

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